Have there been Muslims who preach Islam in a way that makes you want to vomit, or even consider apostasy? Have there been people coming at you with those big beards, throwing Quran verses and hadiths at you for a shock effect? Do you live in a Muslim country where scholars refuse to denounce domestic violence, honor killings, oppression of non-muslims, women, and other shameful acts? Do you live in a Muslim country where their views of Islam are shaped by the culture and ways of life? And when you object to them, they say you're misguided, or just a non-Muslim for not following them? Doesn't it annoy you that so many misguided people use this religion to promote hatred and bloodshed? Doesn't it annoy you how so many people in this religion overreact and resort to extreme measures? Doesn't it annoy you MORE when those who engage in any of the above cause Muslims to become insecure about Islam, and even become apostates?

If you think people leave Islam just because they want to drink or have sex outside of marriage, then you're an idiot. You fit in with the above morons who think they're getting extra judgment day points by using Islam to suit their emotions and stupidity. It's becoming increasingly difficult to remain a part of this ummah with all the lunatics we sadly produce. And if you can't see this then YOU HAVE NO FAITH, and you don't want to admit the problems that are affecting many young Muslims.

It's becoming increasingly difficult to be a Muslim today because of what happens in the name of our religion. Every single day someone or some group does something ridiculous in the name of Islam. And you know what? Those morons who use this religion for violence, hatred, stupidity, and oppression DON'T CARE what we have to go through. To them, they're doing God a favor by presenting Islam this way. They think they're getting extra judgment day points by causing hatred and fear!

It is so painful to see how many bullies we have in this religion of ours. We have people in Islam who show no mercy, who are unforgiving, who will do their best to bring you down, who will do their best to embarrass you, who will do their best to insult and degrade. It makes me wonder, how are we suppose to have inner peace and full confidence in Islam when these people are running around and targeting us?


Friday, May 29, 2015

Trying to understand a woman's dress in islam

Growing up in a multicultural, non-segregated, multi religious country, I thought hijab was only a choice. Then later on I was convinced hijab was Islamic because a scholar said Ibn Abbas (the first commentator on the Quran and a companion of the Prophet Muhammed pbuh) wrote it being necessary. Keep in mind there is no reliable hadith about hijab, so other than the commentary, there was no solid evidence for hijab. So later on I was reading the commentary of Ibn Abbas and I found nothing about a woman's dress. So I don't believe head covering is mandatory for Muslim women. Have a look at the following links: http://www.irfi.org/articles/articles_1_50/is_hijab_compulsory.htm
http://www.mwlusa.org/topics/dress/hijab.html
https://www.searchforbeauty.org/2016/01/02/fatwa-on-hijab-the-hair-covering-of-women/

Here are three videos from Dr. Shabir Ally:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZTWz0k4CZY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXWPmJVdbl0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4hnD8DBdOo

In the Indian subcontinent, hijab among most women is not worn. Which is why so many Pakistani, Indian, and Bengali Muslim women have had their heads uncovered, both historically and today.

Now the debate is what type of clothing is appropriate. I keep on hearing Muslim women should wear clothes that don't show the shapes of the body. But this is just plain stupid, because whatever a woman wears, her body shapes will ALWAYS be visible. The movements of certain body parts will ALWAYS show, no matter what the clothing is. Women are shaped differently than men (they tend to have more fat in certain areas, and they tend to have wider hips, and so on). I have written extensively before about women needing to be modest in certain areas (not being tight or revealing in areas which cause arousal-butt, breasts, legs, and vagina) here:
http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/02/what-does-allah-mean-by-rebellious.html

The Quran is ambiguous in dress. And the aggressive attitudes many Muslims have, they should stop targeting the women. They should instead target the one who created her that way. Its not the woman's fault for being shaped the way she is. It is not her fault that her body movements will show. Sometimes it may seem Muslim women are wearing tight clothes, but again you have to keep in mind, she could just be shaped that way. So its not necessarily the clothes, but the shape of her body.

A few notes I want to make 1) Whatever the type of clothing a woman wears, it NEVER leads to rape. Certain types of clothing can cause sexual advances and arousal (clothing that is forbidden for Muslim women), but in general, clothing is not enough to get raped. Women in Europe and the Americas wear whatever, and MOST men are not gonna do anything. If anything, its gonna be men who are drunk, high, or those who have mental problems (such as abused when they were young) who are going to try something. The first two types are found in college parties and night clubs, where the sexual assault, sexual harassment, and rape of women is high. See these scholarly sources for proof of how clothing doesn't lead to rape: http://www.d.umn.edu/cla/faculty/jhamlin/3925/myths.html
https://well.wvu.edu/articles/rape_myths_and_facts
http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/p_to_r/rape_and_sexual_offences/societal_myths/

 2) Hijab or burka will NOT STOP sexual assault or rape. Sexual assault and rapes are endemics in Egypt, Afghanistan, Iraq, Yemen, and Pakistan. And the women there are not wearing bikinis. They're covered head to toe. In such countries like these, it has become a culture to act this way towards women. On top of that, the police and justice systems do nothing, making rape and sexual assault pretty much legal. 3) Clothing is NOT an indicator of religiosity. You might want to check this link on why we can't judge other Muslims: http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/02/something-that-i-have-come-to-realize.html
4) Muslims from countries where women are covered head to toe will automatically assume the clothing of women is tight and revealing when they visit another country where women are not covered head to toe. You may want to check out this article of culture influencing people's perceptions of Islam: http://mymuslimthoughts.blogspot.ca/2015/04/does-culture-influence-our-views-on.html

Just because a woman is wearing a hijab or burka or jilbab, is does not mean she is more or less religious than a Muslim woman who doesn't wear hijba, burka, or jilbaab. There are women who cover themselves up, yet do heinous sins, and there are muslim women who don't cover up yet they are good practicing muslims.

So, 2 things:
1) Muslim women should be modest in areas that will cause arousal (butt, legs, vagina, breasts) so the clothing shouldn't be tight or revealing
2) HOWEVER, it is important to note that body shapes and body movements of women will ALWAYS be visible, not matter what the clothing is. Sometimes it may seem the clothing is tight, but its just the shape of the body. And we can't get angry at the woman because ALLAH MADE HER THAT WAY.

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